Intuition Podcast [99] My Best Intuitive Technique To Avoid Polluting Your Intuition + Free Intuitive Reading
My Best Intuitive Technique To Avoid Polluting Your Intuition
Today, we are going to start with a free intuitive reading that I’m giving to a member of the audience who went to my website, leftbrainintuitive.com/ask, and told me where they feel stuck. And that’s all I know about them. I don’t have their email, I don’t have their name—I just know where they’re stuck.
However, energy doesn’t need your email to reach you, and so I can tune in to this person knowing only where they’re stuck. So we’re going to do that today.
If there’s anything in this reading that resonates with you, then I’m going to give you a technique that you can use right now to get a clear, intuitive insight about your life—something you can use in everyday life, something that’s quick and easy.
I’m an engineer, so all my techniques are more science-based. They have step-by-step instructions. You can’t get them wrong.
All right, let’s get started.
Intuition and the Root of Feeling Stuck in Family Life
Today’s reading is for someone who feels stuck in their family life.
The problem that you described was that you were just feeling pulled in every direction. The fundamental issue here is that it’s hard for you to zero in on what you want and what you need to be happier in your life.
So I am going to start with my favorite question. I’m describing, step by step, how I’m doing this intuitive reading.
The first thing I always do is ask: What does this person most need to hear?
And what you most need to hear today is that this is not a lost cause. You’ve been dealing with this for a long time, and sometimes we start to think that because something has been there for a long time, it will be there forever, for the rest of our lives.
But that’s not true. That’s not true. It’s a thinking pattern that is easy to fall into without realizing it.
So the thing you most need to hear today is that even if you’ve been stuck in this situation for 10 years, 20 years, it can actually get better, and you can resolve this. You can resolve this.
The next thing I like to ask is: What is the root cause of this problem?
I’m not really interested in the whole story or the different layers of this cake—this onion. I just want to go to the core. What is the root cause? That’s what I ask my intuition.
The root cause of this problem is that you are guided by the events around you instead of being driven by the things inside of you—what you want.
This is a very natural thing to do, right? Especially in the beginning years of our lives, we are learning—learning how to operate in the world. And everything that we learn, we learn from the outside.
In the beginning, your parents taught you how to tie your shoes. There is a transition that eventually happens, though, where we become independent adults, and two things can happen here.
We can keep the same strategy of learning from the outside world and taking our cues from the outside world—living a reactive life where we react to events around us.
Or we can change strategy. Because you’re an adult now, you get to choose.
Intuition and the Power of Proactive Living
You can go in the direction of what you want. However, for many people, we never switch strategies. We just stay in the way that we were taught because we know that works.
You can be very good at being reactive in your life. And in your family, what ended up happening is you became reactive to their needs.
Something would happen, somebody would need something, you would look at that, you would know right away what they needed, and then you would figure out how to give it to them.
You’re very good at this. You’re a great problem solver. And so, everybody started to turn to you and say, “Hey, I have a problem. Fix it.” And you would.
When we’re the mom in a family, that can lead to being tied a little bit to our role, right? We think that fixing other people’s problems is an inherent piece of who we are.
However, this is how we transmit our strategies to our kids. If you keep solving their problems—especially with your kids but also with your husband—you’re teaching them to have a reactive life.
You’re teaching them that they need you in order to solve their problems. And you are outside for them, right?
And this is the catch-22—because you can’t build a happy life by making other people happy. That’s the wrong target.
If you want your life to be happy, you need to be proactive in turning the boat in the direction of what makes you happy.
Because there are only so many hours in the day and so much energy to go around, something’s got to give.
The more you keep the strategy of being reactive to their needs, the more you are polluted.
Clearing Intuitive Pollution and Shifting Focus
From an intuitive perspective, there are three big things that can ruin our intuition:
- Pollution – Focusing on other people’s needs, thoughts, and opinions
- Collision – When Logic blocks Intuition
- Distortion – Deforming an intuitive insight
Pollution is the big one for today. I think it affects women on a massively exponential level because we’re taught from a young age to pay attention to other people’s needs—to be considerate, to be empathic.
We’re also more in touch with emotions—both our own and others’. So when you’re aware that someone else is unhappy, it’s hard to just walk away.
If you’re sensitive to that, it takes a mental workout to say, “I know you’re unhappy, but I also trust you’ll figure it out,” and then walk away to guide your boat toward what makes you happy.
This is not about selfishness. It’s not about saying, “Okay, I’m not doing anything for you guys anymore,” and then dealing with massive guilt.
That’s not what this is about.
The smallest unit of pro-action in one’s life is making a decision. That’s the smallest thing you can do.
When you make that decision—to be happier in your life—your intuition listens. And your intuition will back you up.
But as long as what you’re thinking is, “I want to make these people happy,” your intuition is like, “Well, I can’t really help you there. That’s not my area of expertise. I’m a specialist in you, actually.”
Your intuition is reacting, responding to the contents of your thoughts. So if you’re constantly thinking about other people, your intuition has nothing to say about your happiness.
An Intuitive Technique for Clearer Guidance
To change direction here, you need to make a decision. Once you do, your intuition can back you up.
The most important thing you can do to avoid pollution is to ask your intuition questions about yourself in the present.
For example, ask:
- “What can I do today to be happier in my life?”
- “What can I do today to find activities that bring me joy?”
Those are fantastic questions to ask your intuition.
However, if you spend all day asking, “What can I do to make my husband happier?” or “How can I fix my kid’s problem at school?”—your intuition won’t give you fulfilling answers about your happiness.
When your life is happy, it will influence your family. It won’t control or change them, but it will influence them in the same direction.
And you will teach them that there is another strategy besides just being reactive to the world around them.
Ask your intuition about yourself, and that will clear up pollution about other people.
All right. That’s all I’m getting for you today. I hope this was helpful, and I’ll talk to you soon.
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