Do You Feel Stuck, Lost Or Confused?
Today I wanna talk to you about feeling lost, stuck, or confused. Is there an area of your life or multiple areas of your life where you feel lost, stuck, or confused?
Now I’m gonna warn you today, I am gonna grab you by the shoulders and I’m gonna shake you really until all the fears, and the excuses, and the reasons why you cannot, fall out of your head so that you can actually have a moment of clarity about your life and what’s been going on in your life.
And the reason I wanna do that is because there is nothing that breaks my heart more than hearing a woman maybe later. Maybe later. I am lost, suck. or confused but maybe I will fix this later. I will circle back to this, maybe next year, maybe next month. Now, what does it mean when we feel lost, stuck or confused. So there’s a point where the Logical Mind has taken us as far as it can. This is where the plan ends.
Because either the Logical Mind has declared something impossible. So, for example, when I was, you know, a 36 year old single mom, software engineer burning out at work, I had to take two sabbaticals in my career to rest. When I was in that state and I had just gotten divorced, I didn’t, I was renting, I could not figure out how I was gonna ever feel financially stable again.
I had been married for 10 years. I was very stuck because my Logical Mind said, yeah, so no. So you have one salary, you need to pay for college. You need to pay for all the expenses. I didn’t have alimony or child support. You also need to put money and this and that and that, and that.
And my logical mind says, okay, that’s impossible I was stuck.
So there’s a point where the Logical Mind has taken us as far as it can go unless something drastically changes , unless there’s new information. When we bring in new information, then the logical mind can go to work again and make a better plan.
Now, if you are stuck, lost or confused, and you’re saying maybe later to your intuition,maybe next month, maybe next year. The thing is, there’s no more information here. You are just using what’s already there and you’re not wanting to dig into the rest to your intuition data bank.
And what will happen in six months, in a year. How long will you wait? Feeling lost, stuck, and confused before you do something different. How long will you wait? Will you wait a year?
Will you wait five years? Will you wait 10 years or 20? staying in the same lost, stuck in confused place because you’ve exhausted the resources available to you through your Logical Mind.
Now I know why. I know why you would do that. I totally know why. It’s fear, you’re afraid. Now, this specific fear will have a different flavor for each person I’ve talked to. There’s always a bit of a different flavor. Some women are afraid that this is gonna be a big life disruptor and they don’t wanna disrupt their comfortable life.
Some women are afraid that they’re gonna learn something about themselves that is scary.
Like, I don’t really wanna be an employee anymore. I wanna have my own business because then I’m more in charge and I long for that. Some women are afraid to have that clarity. They would rather make do and keep going the way they’ve been going for a long time, even though it’s, it’s killing them inside.
Now, the thing that is really critical is that intuition does not reveal information that doesn’t feel better. Because the entire premise of the way that this tool function, it’s a decision making tool. Do I want to turn left? Do I want to turn right? That’s based on where do you want to go and if you choose that you wanna be happier in your life, if you choose that you wanna be happier in your life, then what intuition provides is information on how to get there. And there’s nothing dangerous about information.
First of all, you don’t have to do anything about it. You can just take the information and not change anything. But it’s nice to know why.
Now, what about that? I’ve been feeling stuck in my career where I get a new job and then two months later I’m miserable and it keeps happening and I don’t know why. And then I tough it out for a while, and then I get another job and it happens again.
I’m lost, stuck, or confused. In this case, you’re very stuck, but there’s clarity there underneath and, and I think you know it and you’re afraid to go look. Now at that moment, at that, There’s a bunch of crap that will come up. There’s a bunch of excuses that your Logical Mind has built over the years to explain why you’re lost, stuck, and confused.
Now, your logical mind doesn’t know why because that information’s not available there. But it made up a story, and your story can be very old. You can have a story that says, for 10 years I’ve been stuck. And if you keep making that same choice of only going with your Logical Mind and not looking, exploring and leveraging your intuition to optimize your decisions, you are gonna be exactly in this place 10 years from now, 20 years from now.
So if you’ve been looking for that promotion that really gets you to the next level, but it’s not happening, do you have a story about why you’re disadvantaged? Do you have a story about why you’re not worthy of being promoted, that you need to work harder first before you get promoted? Do you have a story about why nobody in your family has ever been a VP of something.
Very good stories. They’re all very good stories. I’m familiar with them all. Some of it I experienced myself or some of them I saw in other women as are talking. They’re good stories, but they’re not truth. It’s an excuse, it’s a reason. It’s a construct that the Logical Mind makes up so that you just stay comfortable, you know, in your space where you’re miserable, but at least you’re not going out there where do zombies live? According to your logical mind, there are no zombies on there. By the way, your intuition is not gonna throw you in a river filled with crocodiles because your intuition wants you to be happier . It wants you to reach your goal, and it’s our natural inclination to wanna be happier in our lives.
Now, why is that? Why is that a good goal to just focus on this thing: I wanna be happier in my life today and to ask this question to intuition, what can I do to be happier in my life today? What can I do to be happier in my job today? What can I do to be happier with my husband today? What can I do to be happier in my relationship with my son today?
Why is that a good question? It’s really the only question that you need, and, and here’s why. Let’s say that your goal right now is, or the thing that you’re obsessed with is making more money. Well, why do you want more money? . Well because I’d like to buy a bigger house cuz our house is very small and it’s very frustrating cuz we feel like we’re crowding each other.
Okay. So why do you want the bigger house? Well, I think we would, we would like to have more space and then we would all be happier. Okay. So the reason you want more money is to be happier.
Okay. So let’s say that your goal right now is to get promoted. Why do you wanna get promoted? Well, because I don’t really like where I’m, I’m at. I feel like I’ve learned as much as I can from, from my current line of work, and I can’t go any further, but I wanna keep growing.
Why do you wanna keep growing? Well, because it feels good to grow. Makes me happier. Okay? So whatever it is that you want, if you keep asking why you want it, you’re always gonna end up in that same place, because I wanna be happier in my life.
Let’s cut to the chase. Let’s cut the middle man, and let’s just go with that Every day. The goal is to be happier in some way. Could be a small way, could be a big way, but that’s the goal. That’s how you optimize every day by talking to your intuition. Now the thing is, I’m sure that you have a lot of reasons why you don’t do that right now every day.
Do you have a lot of reasons? Let’s see, common reasons. It’s expensive. I’m sure that it costs a lot of money to learn how to use my intuition. It was gonna take a lot of time. I don’t have a couple of hours a day to meditate. That’s also very common excuse. I’m doing just fine. I’m doing just fine the way I am.
This is a broken compass because you know you’re not fine. You know you are lost, stuck, or confused. That’s a broken compass. We talked about that in the last podcast. You might wanna go circle back to that one. This is all crap. This is all crap. This is all excuses because, because let’s see this podcast right here, I’m giving you lots of tips on how to use your intuition for free.
It’s not costing you any money. I teach a workshop called the Clarity Accelerator, which is free, where not only will I teach you the very recipe I use myself and teach my student and my coaching program for free, but then I’m gonna coach you on how to use it to overcome whatever obstacle you have run into when you tried it.
That’s free. And it takes me about 20 minutes to teach you that. It’s not long , it’s not three hours, it’s not long. And the technique itself, once you learn how to do it, it takes less than five minutes. It takes less than five. No matter what level of experience you have cuz I’ve taught this to women who had never attempted to decipher their intuitive insight, and I taught this method to them, this recipe.
And they can, they can do it at five, I mean, it’s probably less, it’s probably three minutes. So all of the excuses that you have come up right now is crap. It’s all reasons that your logical mind has made up out of fear.
Now, fear is not real. Danger is real. There’s things that are dangerous. If you take all your savings and you go to Las Vegas and you try to use your intuition to guess which number is gonna win, that’s dangerous. Don’t do that. Not that you would, because if you’re here, you’re a logic dominant woman. I’m not really worried about this.
However, intuitive information that comes in to augment your current pool of information so you can draw a better conclusion and come up with a better plan with your, your, with your Logical Mind that is not dangerous. There is nothing dangerous there. And although I feel for you that you’re scared because I was scared too.
That’s why I’m shaking you right now, because I know where you’ve been. I have been there myself. I was scared. I was scared to look. I was scared to ask but I know that fear is not real because now I’m on the other side and that’s why I’m screaming at you, from where I am this way, come this way . Why am I doing that right?
Why am I doing that every day? It’s because I’m on the other side . I was in a life where I was exhausted by all the things that I was trying to get done. I live with a, with a domineering man who wanted so much to control me.
I worked at companies that, that did not appreciate me and were trying to get as much out of me as they could, and now I crossed on the other side, and I have a partner who cherishes me and who supports me, and I have worked for companies in corporate America because I do love corporate America, there’s a lot of great things that happened for me in corporate America, I did work for companies who really appreciated me, not just with words, but they showed me that they appreciated me by giving me the things that I needed.
It that, that is why I’m screaming at you from the other side of the ravine, and I’m saying, come this way. The bridge is right here. Take one step, and I got you. And you can cross the bridge this way so that you don’t have to wait any longer. You don’t have to spend another minute feeling lost, stuck, or confused.
Because asking your intuition with a protocol that eliminates collision, distortion and pollution will get you a pure intuitive insight that will feel better. That will bring you clarity, the immediate gratification of intuition. It will bring you clarity, and from that place of clarity, your Logical Mind, kids start to work again.
You won’t be stuck because your logical mind will go, oh, new information. I can do something with that. I know how to fix that. Now that we know what the problem is, and in that moment, you know what happens. You become empowered in your own life. It doesn’t matter if right now you work for an employer that doesn’t appreciate it, you, it doesn’t matter if right now your husband is disrespectful. It doesn’t matter if your family is not, is not paying attention to the fact that you are the only one doing all the work. It doesn’t matter because you’ll have clarity. And from that place of clarity, you can start taking the first step to fix every single one of these situations. And when we’re on the move, right?
So once we have clarity and we take the first step, oh my gosh, it feels better. Why? Because now we’re going in the right direction. That’s part of the intuitive compass where get going in the right direction. But also we feel like when we, we took that step in the right direction, we feel empowered and oh my God, as a woman, I have felt disempowered in my own life enough for my next 15 lifetimes.
Enough. Enough of that , there is power in your Intuitive Advantage. And now, right now is the time for you to just decide. Just decide that you’re gonna start using it.
That would make me so happy. Just decide that you are willing to get that information. Not maybe later, not maybe later.
Cuz that means five years, 10 years, 20 years, or never.
All right, that’s all I’m getting for you today. I hope this was helpful and I’ll talk to you soon.