INTUITIVE MESSAGE: Are You Prioritizing Your Family’s Needs Above Your Own

Hi, my name is Elise Lebeau. I’m the Left Brain Intuitive, and I have received an anonymous intuitive message and I’m wondering if it’s for you. Today’s message is for someone who is having a lack of balance between what you want and what you perceive as what other people want. It’s interesting because I don’t feel that it’s necessarily that people are saying to you, you need to do this and that you feel obligated to do it. It feels more like you think people want certain things from you and you spend a lot of time and energy fulfilling these needs.

Now part of the problem is that some of these needs are not really what the people around you want. So if you were to be able to articulate in words, “Hey, I’m doing this because I think you want me to do that,” that person would say, “Oh, well, I, I didn’t realize that, and that’s not really what I want.” And this is important because there’s an easy to clarify confusion. Just if you verbalize. You know, why you do what you do, although I feel like one of the issues is that you’re not necessarily clear that you do certain things for other people.

I feel like this might not be conscious. I don’t have access to your consciousness, even as a professional intuitive, so I don’t know your thoughts. I’m not reading your thoughts. I’m reading your energy, which is kind of the hard drive, you know, on your computer. It, the thoughts leave a trace eventually when you have them over and over again.

And that’s why I can read other people is because I read basically the trace that’s left behind through repetition. So if you have a fleeting thought, I’m not going to be able to see that. But if you think about something for a long time, that’s going to leave a trace. And this is what I’m seeing is linked to that imbalance in your life and the pain in your foot. Is that there are things that you’re not even aware you’re doing them for other people’s benefit. And they’re not really aware of it either, I feel, because it’s not been verbalized. And given a choice, they might say, “Oh yeah, I appreciate that you, I don’t know, always unload the dishwasher.” But they might also say, “Well, I don’t mind doing that. You know, I don’t mind doing it. So maybe you could do something else instead that I do mind doing, right?”

So a redistribution would bring more balance in your immediate relationship. So I feel like this is, this is a circumstance that’s happening either with your partner, your husband, your boyfriend, or with your child. There’s a lot of male energy around you, so I’m guessing you have a husband and maybe a male child. And you are very dedicated to their well-being.

Okay, so the first thing is if you can spend some time asking yourself, you know, why am I doing this? Is it for me or is it for someone else? And if it’s someone else, can you confirm with them that this is something they want? And once you have that information, whether or not they want that, then it’s time to ask the tough question, which is, “Is this something that prioritizes their happiness above yours?” And this is another imbalance where even when somebody does make a request, you know, can you do this? You have the ability and the power and it’s okay for you to say no, this doesn’t resonate with me. You know, this is not something that feels right for me to do. You know best what makes you happy, and what brings joy in your life, and what feels fair.

So, you know, nobody wants to do laundry, maybe. And if you split the task equally between you and your partner and or your son, you end up having a good distribution. Everybody’s doing some stuff they don’t like, but there’s also stuff they don’t mind. And it’s fun to figure out, “Oh, I actually don’t mind doing this, but I really hate that one. Can we trade?” It’s like trading Halloween candy. And this will bring another kind of balance in your life.

Okay, so, and the third aspect of balance that is missing is that you spend an inordinate amount of time and energy thinking about other people’s well-being and very little time and energy on your own. This is a non-sustainable pattern, meaning that over the course of your life, and it can be very gradual, but over the course of your life, you’re going to start accumulating debt. Or draining your battery, you know, and that debt is going to look like resentment or just being angry in general. You don’t really know why, having spite being jealous. So basically these powerful negative thoughts will start popping up in your life because you don’t have balance about how you generate and radiate well-being.

Because the way that the system is meant to work is that when you focus on being happy in your own life, eventually you will overflow. And the people around you benefit from that because you, first of all, you become a great influence on them of being happy, but then they also benefit because as you overflow, you develop a lot of goodwill towards them because you’re full and you have, you feel happy in your life and you feel balanced, you feel that your needs are met. And then this overflow allows you to also expand and include them, and so you can help meet some of their needs, right? And as a family unit, that’s really awesome. It’s a really sustainable system, especially because it’s contagious.

So as you start to do that, it’s more likely that the people in your family will also start to overflow like this. And then it becomes a very sustainable system. But if there’s one person who’s constantly kind of discharging their battery or emptying their battery to recharge others, that, that’s going to lead to a dead battery. And you can only jumpstart those batteries so many times before you’ve really, they’re flat dead. And when you run out of energy using a system that was not sustainable it’s really hard to come back from that. Because then, there’s a vacuum there that is filled with those very strong negative emotions that I talked about earlier. So this is the third area that needs balance.

Knowing what the problem is, is most of the solution in my experience. Now that you’ve heard this message, your logical mind is going to start thinking, “Oh, yeah, I could see that, I wonder what I could do about that.” And it’s going to come up with solutions. You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to force it. You just, just by hearing this message articulated in words, now your brain can process this. You can ask yourself, where can I get more balance today in my life?

I post all of these intuitive message on my intuitive community for logical women at leftbrainintuition.com. I’d love for you to join the conversation. All right, that’s all I’m getting for you today. I hope this was helpful and I’ll talk to you soon.